Choosing The Ring

by | Bride, Engagements, Grooms, Jewellery


Welcome to 2010 on Polka Dot Bride! I’m going to kick off the year with a very special guest, someone who is near and dear to me- Mr Polka Dot!

Mr Polka wrote this post last year and since the festive season is the time when most proposals happen, I thought this was a perfect time to share his words with you. So this is choosing a ring from a guy’s point of view!


Ring from Georg Jensen

So you’ve decided that you’re going to ask that special lady in your life to marry you.

That is going to mean getting an engagement ring. There are a couple of ways to go about doing this. First up is the traditional way, go out and select the ring yourself to surprise her with, or propose and take her with you to pick out the ring she would love.

There are pro’s and cons for both of these methods.

If you really want to surprise her with the bended knee and opening ring box you’re going to have to get it yourself.  My best advice for this method is to be observant.  If you know more about what her likes and dislikes are in this area you’re more likely to pick something that she is going to scream over and feel wonderful showing off to all her friends.

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Ring from Cerrone


If she never talks about weddings or wedding rings you may not be able to get a perfect idea of the ring she would love, however you can garner plenty of information from the rest of her jewelery collection. What kind of colour does she like? Is she a gold, white gold or silver girl? Or if she has a lot, what does she wear the most on her hands. Also does she prefer subtle jewelery, or is she into the louder more extravagant items. This will all give you great insight into what to pick out for her.

Now once you have been observing this, my next suggestion would be to find a very helpful jeweler. It will be much easier for if you find a jeweler who will help you through the process of picking out the perfect ring. This may mean going to a few jewelers until you find the right one for you.

The other way of course is to ask the question without the ring and to pick out the ring together. This method of course means you don’t have to worry about getting the right ring on your own. Before you head down this path thinking it’s the easy way however it might be worth gauging from her how she feels about this way. It will require tact on your part to work this out without giving away your intention.

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Ring from Jan Logan

We wouldn’t want you just come out and ask the question with out the ring if she really has her heart set on the question coming with the ring in the box.

Once you’ve decided on a method of getting the ring for her, the next major task for you is the proposal. That my friends is an art of it’s own, however I’m assured that rolling over on the couch, letting off gas and saying ‘how about it babe’ might not be the best way to go.

  • Sharon says:
    January 4, 2010 at 6:56 pm

    I received my proposal without the ring – and that’s exactly how I wanted it. I was never the kind to leave ring catalogues lying around the place (I have heard stories of girls who have done this!), and to look in my jewellery collection would only confirm that I like yellow gold – nothing specific in terms of style.

    Choosing my ring was exciting and I ended up getting something that I doubt my fiance would have chosen for me. The one-month wait for it to be made was a bit of a disappointment, however when it did arrive I received another proposal – this time with the ring (“will you still marry me?”)!

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    January 4, 2010 at 7:13 pm

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  • westsidewedding
    westsidewedding says:
    January 5, 2010 at 6:49 am

    Happy New Year and congratulations on being on the Top 100 wedding blogger list!

    • Polkadot Bride
      Polkadot Bride says:
      January 5, 2010 at 4:04 pm

      Thankyou so much! Happy New Year to you too!

      Loving the engagement stories- nothing better!

  • Mareeyah
    Mareeyah says:
    January 5, 2010 at 11:45 am

    Talking about engagement and rings… I got engaged one year and three days ago. It was not the most dramatic, most romantic, most impressive proposal the world has seen; it was just simple and sweet and sincere, right in the living room of my parents’ house. It was first without the ring, but later in that day, we went out to get one… which was, like the proposal, just a simple and sweet one. It doesn’t even have a sparkling diamond or any jewel on it, but I wear it with pride, as I know it is worth millions of his love for me.

  • Farah
    Farah says:
    January 5, 2010 at 1:39 pm

    Love the ring selections and great advice! one of my girl friends chose a couple of rings and sent the pics to her groom-to-be long before the proposal…you know just in case…lol…I guess it helped cuz she got what she wanted! Hey is it ok if I feature this post on our site?

  • Michael Costa
    Michael Costa says:
    January 6, 2010 at 3:45 am

    Nice post!

    The second ring reminds me of the Eiffel Tower.

  • Georg Jensen USA
    Georg Jensen USA says:
    January 7, 2010 at 3:02 am

    Beautiful photo of the Georg Jensen Centenary Ring – of course we think it’s a wonderful choice for an engagement ring that any fiance would be proud to wear!

  • Meredith
    Meredith says:
    April 8, 2010 at 4:09 am

    I know I’m a little late commenting on this, but I just thought I’d throw it out there. Another idea, if you want to have something to show her, is to purchase an inexpensive stand-in ring until you two can pick one out together. I’ve even heard of grooms using a plastic ring just to have the symbol of the ring. It’s sort of the best of both worlds.

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