It has been a little over a month since I shared our engagement celebrations with Polka Dot Bride and almost five months since the man of my dreams popped the big question – and I am happy to report that planning is well underway!
With a gorgeous ring on my finger, a handsome man by my side and the engagement celebrations over it was time to choose our bridal party.
Having been a bridesmaid myself, the bond you share and memories you make leading up to a wedding are ones that stay with you forever. A bridesmaid is someone to confide in, someone who will honestly tell you if your hair looks hideous and someone that will squeeze your hand just before you walk down the aisle.
Image from the film Made of Honour via tiffymin blog
I know that for many brides-to-be this can often be a difficult decision especially at the thought of upsetting friends or having to include that obligatory second cousin on your mother’s side! It is important to remember that these are the people that will not only be standing by your side when you say “I do” but will be sharing each exciting moment along the way.
For me, I could not look past my beautiful sister – she is my best friend and she knew that Paul was “the one” even before I did! Michelle has taken on the role of MOH (Maid of Honour) with great enthusiasm emailing me wedding dress and invitation ideas and unbeknown to me she was Paul’s confidant and helper on the day he proposed!
Quite early on Paul and I had decided that we did not want a long bridal table facing our guests but would instead be seated at a table in amongst everyone and the excitement of the day. This meant that a bridal party of six would be an ideal number.
With this in mind, I rang my best friend who I met at University and said “Paul asked me to marry him, will you be my bridesmaid?” There was no doubt in my mind that Vanessa of Princess Cherry Pie would be the one who I would email every week with random wedding ideas for discussion!
When I told Vanessa that Paul would be wearing a kilt and that I wasn’t sure how to work this into a spring wedding she quickly sent through, with the help of Polka Dot Bride, images of gorgeous tartan themed weddings for inspiration!
My bridesmaids have already volunteered to help with different areas of the wedding. Vanessa has offered to do my makeup and I must admit I would not trust anyone else to do so! Michelle will be ‘my honest opinion’ when we go wedding dress shopping and both have been fantastic when talking about bridesmaid dresses – their only request was “nothing with frills!” and my gift is the option of having a heel height that suits them so that they are comfortable on the day.
I must admit that when I think of bridesmaid dresses I always remember the final scene from 27 Dresses when the camera pans out and a row of bridesmaids are standing in the dresses they chose so carefully along with the words “you can shorten it and wear it again”!
Images from the film 27 Dresses via Entertainment Weekly
With those words, here are my top tips for choosing bridesmaids:
1. Decide on how many you want in the bridal party. An old rule of thumb is one bridesmaid for every 50 guests but this rule is not strict – it’s up to you.
2. Pick the people who will add to the excitement of your wedding day as well as the lead up and make sure at least one of them provides an honest opinion!
3. Take the time to ask each person individually explaining why you want to share the day with them. Being a bridesmaid can be a lot of work and commitment so make sure they are willing and happy to participate.
4. Finally, gender doesn’t matter. If your brother is your best friend then ask him to be your maid of honour – it would be a great talking point at the wedding!
Ms Polka Dot says: Aimee is here once again to share with us another step in her wedding journey – choosing her bridesmaids. With some wonderful tips and advice on choosing your bridesmaids, her wise words should help to make your own decision easier! Thank you Aimee for sharing!
Aimee says, “I am a bride-to-be muddling my way through preparations. I find inspiration around every corner and often wish my wedding to Paul could last for a week with a different style everyday! My true love is classic elegance with that personal touch. Only problem is the groom wants to wear a tartan kilt…!”