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Groom’s Checklist: Ten Tasks Every Groom Should Be Prepared For

by | Groom, Tips and Tricks




Image by Glass Slipper Photography via Nicola & George’s Classic White Wedding

Wedding planning is all about picking your battles. As anyone who’s done it knows, it can be a labour-intensive process, especially if you’re wanting a unique experience. Vendors must be interviewed, spreadsheets created, menus curated, centrepieces designed – the list goes on. At InStitchu, we think the key is knowing when to have an opinion, when to help and when to walk away.

Once you seal the deal with an engagement ring, it’s important to set a game plan. Having a game plan and being prepared will keep you from losing perspective and freaking out over the little things. This time should be fun and exciting, not filled with debates or teary meltdowns.

The saying goes, ‘Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus’– and this is never more clear than when the planets are preparing to fall into alignment forever. You may share the view of George Banks of ‘Father of the Bride’ when he says “Boy and girl meet; they fall in love; he buys a ring; she buys a dress; they say I do.” But to your fiance, a wedding might be so much more than this. It’s the result of countless hours of planning, dreaming, crafting and creating. It’s a day that will be remembered forever.

So what can you do to nurture this? What can you do to ensure your bride-to-be gets the day she deserves? You can start by ticking off this checklist….

1. Establish a date
Until you have a date set, there’s little point in planning your wedding. Besides, the time of year in which you get married will impact many other aspects of your big day. Things you’ll want to consider when choosing a date include:

  • What’s our budget?
  • How long do we want to be engaged?
  • What’s my favourite season?
  • Does it have to be a weekend?
  • Are there any dates of significance?
  • Are there any conflicting events?
  • What’s available?
  • Who do we want to invite?

Once you’ve agreed on your date, you’ll want to start spreading the news. Start with the people closest to you and send out ‘Save the Date’ cards. Some guests may need to work out travel arrangements and book time off work, so the more notice you offer, the easier it is for your guests.

2. Choose your best man, groomsmen and ushers


Image by Shot From The Heart via Yaana & Tom’s Colourful Handmade Wedding

The best man has an assortment of responsibilities both before and during your wedding, so you want to choose someone you can rely on. He should be ready to run last-minute-errands, be happy to handle the unexpected, and not be the wildest one at your buck’s party. If you’re lucky enough to have two men you want to be best man, it’s perfectly acceptable to ask both. Just be sure to clearly define individual responsibilities early on. If you can’t decide between your best friends, consider asking a family member, such as your brother.

Your groomsmen will be expected to attend all pre-wedding festivities and help the best man prepare for your buck’s party. Depending on the number of bridesmaids your wife-to-be has chosen, they may be required to escort bridesmaids in and out of the ceremony and be by their side in photographs.

If you have a large number of guests attending, ushers are a great idea, as they can help guests be seated and be the source of information on your special day. For this reason they should be responsible and trustworthy. As a general rule, it’s great to have one usher for every 30-40 guests.

3. Arrange a visit with minister/wedding officiant
Wedding officiants can get booked up early, so allow plenty of time to start interviewing. Don’t just settle on the first one you meet, as the officiant you choose can enrich your overall wedding experience. If you’re holding a religious ceremony, your minister may want to get to know you as a couple and may require several meetings with you to discuss marriage as a whole and what it means to you. For a civil ceremony, you may want to discuss vow options or the possibility of writing your own.

4. Organise your wedding attire


Image by Love is Sweet Photography via Deborah & Rob’s Romantic Montsalvat Wedding

By now you will have decided on the style and overall feel for the wedding, meaning you should have a good idea about the kind of suit you and your groomsmen should wear. For a traditional, more formal event, a classic tuxedo with a notch, shawl or peak label is ideal. Slim-fit silhouettes are on-trend, as are shades of grey. Destination or beach weddings may call for more relaxed attire and lighter colours.

Your wedding suit is your chance to shine, so make it a good one. It needs to differ from the suits you wear to work and all the normal rules of ‘finding a suit to match your day-to-day life’ go out the window. You suit needs to fit beautifully, photograph well and offer unique detail.

You should also chat with your fiance to subtly match your attire – think a pocket square made out of the same fabric as your bride’s dress, or matching your groomsmen’s ties to the bridesmaids’ dresses. Accessories can make all the difference.

5. Arrange transportation
Many brides are happy to let their men choose how they arrive and leave their wedding. Formal vehicles are in high demand, so you’ll want to book early. Your transportation should match the wedding theme, so if you’re planning a vintage wedding, look beyond the white stretch limo. Your ride, your bride’s ride, and your bridesmaids’ ride should fit in with the overall vision.

6. Order wedding rings


Image by Wendy Maley Photography via Rosie & Pat’s Colourful Rainforest Wedding

Your wedding ring is on YOUR finger, so it doesn’t have to match your wife’s. Many women choose to have their wedding band in the same metal as their engagement ring, but what you wear is up to you. Your ring should match your lifestyle, so consider if work or your hobbies pose potential risk of damage. If so, durability is a must and you should refrain from including any precious stones. Lower-karat gold is more durable than higher-karat gold and silver because it’s alloyed with stronger metals. If you were hoping for a platinum band, palladium could be a good option because it’s durable yet light.

7. Pick the music
The music can make or break your wedding, so make sure it’s good. If you have a band, take a look through their playlist and highlight your favourites and least favourites. If you have a request or two, there’s no harm in asking them to learn a new song, as long as you give them time. If you’re creating a playlist yourself, start with what you know and your existing music collection. Break it up into parts of the day i.e. pre-ceremony, the aisle, cocktail hour, dinner and dance party. Ask around for suggestions, but never feel obliged to include them.

8. Order boutonnieres and a corsage for Mum


Image by Studio Sixty Photography via Australian Glamping Wedding Inspiration

To tie your groomsmen in with the bridesmaids, you’ll want a boutonniere for each. A boutonniere is a floral decoration worn by men, typically a single flower or bud. Giving a corsage to your mother is seen as a gesture of appreciation. If you’re not sure what colour your mother is wearing, opt for something neutral.

9. Choose gifts for your attendants
A gift for your best man and groomsmen is tradition, but just what you get them is open for discussion. Try to make it unique and personal. Ideas include an engraved flask, a set of cufflinks, a watch to match their suit, or personalised socks or boxers.

10. Have fun
The most important part of your wedding is to enjoy the process – be it the planning, the bucks, or the day itself. If you’re not a big fan of planning then talk to your wife-to-be and ask her about what she expects from  you.

If you feel like you’d like to take on more wedding duties, talk to her about that too. There are tons of other things to get involved in – like cake tasting, flower picking, honeymoon planning, gift registering, menu planning, invitation and thank you card writing, and more. Take on what you are willing – she’ll probably be happy to get something off her plate!


Image by Fi Mims via Alysia & Kym’s Vintage Chic Wedding

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Ms Chinoiserie Says: The most important thing about preparing for your wedding is to have fun as a couple; enjoy these special planning moments together!

About Institchu: We believe that every man should be able to afford high quality tailored suits and shirts. Our customers order by designing their own tailored suit or shirt from scratch or can use an existing design from our collections page. With a guaranteed fit policy, we have strict quality control procedures to ensure our tailored suits and shirts meet the highest quality standards expected by our customers.

The Groom’s Survival Pack

by | Gifts and Favors, Groom, Tips and Tricks


Nicola Goring


Image via CedarBoxStudio

There’s no question that your wedding day will be one of the best days of your life, filled with memories that will last forever. Invariably, some things will turn out differently than you planned, and in my experience it is these things which can lead to the best fun! However, it doesn’t hurt to be a little prepared as small hiccups can be avoided if you have the right “tools” on hand! As the Boy Scouts would say, ‘Be Prepared!’, and I’ve got just the survival pack to get you through.

If you’re searching for a gift for your groom (either as a best man, friend of the groom or bride-to-be), this is an excellent idea to prepare him for this special day!

1. Mints and deodorant

Lets face it, you want your breath to be fresh for your first kiss. And I’d hazard a guess you’ll be wanting to at least have the freedom to twirl your new bride around the dance floor with abandon! Pop your favourite mints and a travel sized deodorant in your survival pack to keep you smelling like a pine forest all day long.


Image via Myer

2. Tissues/handkerchief

There’s a very good chance your bride will shed a few tears during the day, and if you like the idea of being an old school gentleman, keep one of these on you at all times.


Image via Hermes

3. Aspirin/band aids

A mini first aid kit will hopefully remain untouched by the end of the day! But if you need to stop a headache in its tracks or deal with pesky blisters (or come to the aide of someone in your bridal party who is aspirin-less), having these things on hand removes the need for you to accept your Aunt Flo’s musky smelling paracetamol from the bottom of her purse (as grateful as one may be).

4. A spare boutonniere

Although this is not something you’re likely to carry around all day long, it’s worth considering when you place your order with your chosen florist. As a florist attending weddings, I am often asked to fix a broken or smooshed buttonhole bloom which is wilting from vigorous hugs or clumsy fingers. However, if there’s a spare delivered to the church with the rest of your blooms – problem solved!


Image by Carla Atley via Ashlee & Jared’s Sweet Perth Winery Wedding

5. Sweets

Nothing will make you more popular than producing sweets from your kit when having your photos taken with your bridal party. They may be hungry, verging on hangry (so hungry we’re angry – we’ve all been there!), and if you produce some small, delicious treats you will be a hero remembered by many!


Image via Haighs

6. A survival kit bag!

You’ll not need to tote this around with you all day, and it can be kept in the car or given to a friend to bring into your ceremony or reception venue. But something understated and unobtrusive will be perfect to keep your survival “tools” close by! And if preparing this kit as a gift for your groom, a little luxury will not go astray!


Image via Neiman Marcus

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Ms Chinoiserie Says: Wonderful ideas to always ‘Be Prepared’ – a spare boutonniere is so sensible!

About Nicola Goring – I’m Nicola, the florist and crafter behind rubyandjoy. I’m a gardening, fabric loving, mint tea drinking, brownie baking, book obsessed maker! I love a good adventure having just moved back from five years in Scotland (with my lovely Scottish husband).

Inspired Memories – Andrew

by | Groom, Inspired Memories


Ms Chinoiserie

Brisbane Wedding Photography

Taking a moment out from his celebrations to look at how the day had come together was a fond memory of Andrew’s as he looks back on his outdoor winery wedding.

“What I remember most about the day is after the ceremony was finished and we had just had our photos taken and we were standing looking at our reception, I turned to Tammy and said, “I can’t believe we pulled this off.” It was like a combination of 18 months of planning had come to fruition!

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Images by Hannah Gough – Hannah Photography

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