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The Golden Rules For Being A Bridesmaid

by | Wedding Planning Wisdom, Wisdom


Ms Chevron

It’s been a long time since I was last a bridesmaid – 6 years in fact – so it shouldn’t have come as a surprise that I felt a little rusty in terms of performing my bridesmaidly duties. So, since we’ve been following Darren and Teagen’s Wedding Countdown journey, and now that the wedding has happened, I thought it appropriate to share some post-wedding golden rules for being a bridesmaid.

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Golden Rule #1 – It’s not about you.

Let me repeat. It’s not about you. It’s not your big day, it’s hers… and theirs… and then maybe even their parents! So in the wedding pecking order, bridesmaids are a little down the line. Once you understand that the role of bridesmaid is a little more ‘personal assistant’ than ‘boss’, life is much simpler. If she wants you to be somewhere at 6am, then smile and nod and remember it’s what you’ve signed on for! She trusts you to not only be helpful but to make her feel special. After all, it is her big day.

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Golden Rule #2 – Have a laugh.

What good are friends and bridesmaids if you can’t laugh together on their happiest day? Alcorn Images were preparing us for a photo when they noticed we were all doing a last-minute ‘cleavage check’… what a modest bunch!

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Golden Rule #3 – Don’t stress her out.

My brother was running late. I announced this to the matching floral robe brigade followed by the instruction “don’t tell the bride”. Except the bride just so happened to be one of those in a floral robe. Rookie error. I chided myself as I watched her start to play out the flow-on effect of him running late throughout the rest of the day.

Moral of the story – sometimes it is a good thing to keep secrets from the bride, just make sure she’s not within earshot. Preventing unnecessary stress is one of the greatest gifts a bridesmaid can give to the bride. And if all else fails, grab a glass and drink with her.

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Golden Rule #4 – Respect her wishes.

Every person is different and that is no exception when it comes to weddings. Each bride will have her own set of ideas about how the day is to turn out. The best thing you can do is find out what she wants, and then respect that. In this case, the bride wanted her mum to help her get ready out of sight of the bridesmaids so there would be a nice ‘reveal’ moment.

Teagen also wanted a private meeting (on either side of the hotel door) with her groom-to-be pre-ceremony. This was a little difficult for me as I really wanted to give him a hug (being my youngest brother), but respected her wishes for him to not see any of us dressed and ready. And yes, I got my bear hug post-ceremony – proud sister moment.

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Golden Rule #5 – Smile her down the aisle.

This is an easy one. Smile as you head down the aisle before her… no-one wants to see an unhappy bridal party. And if you happen to get a little teary during the ceremony or reception that’s ok! In fact, it’s moving to see love and emotion expressed freely.

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Golden Rule #6 – Know when to give her space.

Whilst you may be needed to fix her veil, do routine lipstick checks, or even help her get to the loo, there comes a time when a bride needs her space. Back off a little during these moments and use it as an opportunity to check on other things or simply enjoy some down time. She’ll love the rare chance to have a final moment with her Dad, or be alone with her new husband, and you’ll get to enjoy the festivities as well.

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Golden Rule #7 – Go above and beyond.

Darren and Teagen’s invitations had asked guests to be there ‘with bells on’ so her younger sister (aka maid-of-honour) had arranged for bells to be hidden within the bouquets as a surprise. This was something sweet and meaningful and a great example of thinking outside the box.

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Now go and be the best bridesmaid you can be!

Images by Alcorn Images

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April Birthstone Diamond

by | Jewellery Wisdom, Wisdom


Pascale of Style Rocks

The April birthstone is Diamond. Happy birthday to all those born in April!

Well where do we start with diamonds? It’s amazing how such a small stone has such power: enough to start wars but on a happier note, to be the symbol of two people sharing the rest of their lives together, whether it be diamonds on the engagement ring, or on the wedding ring!

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Image: StyleRocks

Diamond history

Diamonds are one of the oldest gemstones on earth, given that they are actually a form of coal (carbon). When placed under extreme pressure and very high temperatures (from geological forces), they eventually are pushed up through the earth’s crust. But this is not a quick process, this takes some 1-3 billion years!

Diamonds are mined in Central and Southern Africa, as well as Russia, Australia and Canada. More recently though, India and Brazil have yielded some significant deposits.

Why are we so fascinated with diamonds?

Historically these tiny little gemstones were thought to have supernatural powers, warding off panic and spells. They were also thought to amplify thoughts: so ‘good’ becomes ‘great’ and ‘bad’ becomes ‘horrible. The stone of truth and victory, they were worn by many in battle to help claim victory over their enemies.

Their connection with love and relationships is particularly potent: diamonds are also considered to be able to strengthen relationships between couples, hence their usage in marriage proposals.

But let’s not forget the bling factor. Who can’t help but be dazzled by something of such purity and brilliance?!

Amazing diamonds 

As always, it’s easy to find much of the annual $30 billion diamond industry on the red carpet! The recent awards season brought some incredible diamonds to showcase, as we saw with Angelina Jolie wearing some incredible 42 carat diamond earrings by Robert Procop at the Oscars, while Helen Mirren wore some impeccably designed Asprey earrings at the BAFTAs.

In terms of some really unusual design, we came across these ‘sliced’ diamonds in these ‘Fierce’ earrings by L’Dezen.

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Aren’t they incredible? Slicing diamonds is a relatively new technique – we love it for providing a new take on a mighty old gemstone. What do you think?

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Ms Gingham says: After all, they are a girl’s best friend!

About Pascale: Pascale Helyar-Moray, Founder and Director of StyleRocks has fourteen years of financial services experience as a marketing and communications professional working with blue chip companies in Australia and the UK. Maternity leave forced her to re-examine her career options and in looking for a business she could run from home, created StyleRocks in order to harness her lifelong passion for jewellery.

The Best Resource For A Destination Bride

by | Wedding Planning Wisdom, Wisdom



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Picture this: a small intimate wedding with just your closest friends and family all gathered for your wedding destination soiree. Perhaps you all meet in a charming historic city or a serene beach town to witness such a cherished moment with an unforgettable adventure. Can you imagine it? Doesn’t it sound lovely?

However, the reality is that planning a destination wedding from afar can be a daunting and tasking affair. When you are unfamiliar with an area it can get pretty frustrating and before you know it you’re crying in front of a computer screen overwhelmed by the endless choices. Because not only are there an abundant number of choices but there’s also a risk factor when planning a destination wedding.

Will you accidentally choose the hotel with nice pictures, only to find out it is located in the ghetto when you get there? Will you get scammed by a vendor who promises you a great “deal”?  There would be nothing worse than sending in a deposit only to find yourself disappointed with a no show vendor or sketchy location. Yes, a destination wedding can have some challenges. However, not all is lost, one of the greatest tools a destination bride can invest in is hiring a wedding planner. Even if you can’t splurge for a full service planner consider hiring a month of planner- it can be well worth it. By doing this, you’ll be saving yourself a lot of unnecessary stress because they’ll have tons of resources to share with you. For example:

Referrals: They will give you a list of vendors whom have all been vetted. You need a DJ? A Florist? They will have a few ideas for you while working in your budget.

Venue: They will be familiar with the venue so they can tell you what to expect from all points of view- from guests to bride and groom. They can help you create a working layout and inform you on the ins and outs of the venue and outlining areas. I like to create a video for my destination brides of the venue which I text or email to them so that way they can get a 3D perspective.

Timeline: They will help you create an accurate timeline. If there’s any traveling from the ceremony to the reception site they will have a better idea of how long it will actually take. They will go over the details of the day and speak with all your vendors to create a true working timeline.

Setup:  A planner will setup your personal items so you don’t have to worry about asking great aunt Elsa to do it. Anyone who is coming to a destination wedding wants to have fun- not be put to work. For the amount of money it will cost them to take part in your destination wedding, I’m sure they’d love to enjoy it.

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Ms Gingham says: Valuable advice. It pays to remember that some things are better left to the professionals.

About Valerie Pritt, Fleur de Lis Event Consulting: “The most important thing to me is that my clients look back on their special day and remember how incredible and enjoyable it was for them and their families.”

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