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Should You ‘Wing’ Your Wedding Speech?

by | Wisdom, Wise Words

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Anita Stevens
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Whether it’s your wedding day or you’ve been asked to speak at someone else’s wedding, it’s a pretty big deal.

If it’s your wedding, you and your partner will want everything to be perfect. If it’s someone else’s wedding, then it stands to reason that they will want the same.

For this reason alone I don’t think it’s a good idea to “wing” your wedding speech.

I know – you’re going to tell me you’ve seen and heard of plenty of people who have delivered their speech “on the fly” and done an awesome job.

Well to that I say this: these people and instances are rare. And I would argue that they’ve still put some thought into it beforehand and have a clear idea about what they want to say. Yes, some people are gifted when it comes to public speaking but the majority of us are not!

I think most of us will agree that what usually follows the words: “I’m just going to ‘wing it’ and see what happens” is often disastrous and leads to embarrassment and regret – not just for the speaker.

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Still thinking about “winging it”? Then consider the following:

1. Great speeches don’t happen by magic
If you have no idea what you are going to say but you think that you will miraculously channel Hugh Grant or Julia Roberts on the day and come out with something eloquent, witty and moving the moment you stand up, you are mistaken. This only happens in the movies. 

2. Weddings aren’t cheap
The average Australian wedding is expensive! If you, or people you care about, are paying that much money to create the perfect day, don’t you think that it’s worth having a decent crack it at? It’s an awfully costly risk to take.

3. It will be all about you
If you don’t prepare and then stuff it up royally, your speech will become the focus of the day – for all the wrong reasons! It’s fair to say that people won’t be talking about the beautiful ceremony or the lovely flowers on the way home.

Final word
Treat this opportunity with the respect and honour it deserves. It’s something that will be remembered (and most likely recorded and watched) for years to come. Do you your best to make the memory a good one.

Can’t get it right? Get it written
If you are struggling to find the right words for your wedding speech then why not hire a professional speechwriter to help you so you’re remembered for the right reasons. Think of it as a smart investment.

 

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Ms Chinoiserie Says: Thanks Anita – great advice. You definitely want your speech to be remembered for all the right reasons!

About Anita: Hi, I’m Anita from Write It For Me. I’m a professional speechwriter and can help you translate your thoughts, feelings and emotions into a well-written speech that you can be proud of! I’m not really a morning person, in fact, before my first coffee, I’m barely a person at all!

Cathleen Jia’s ‘Heart Song’

by | Event Reviews, Fashion Wisdom, Wisdom

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Ms Fleur De Lys
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Cathleen Jia Heart Song 2015 wedding dress collection

“It’s just me and my designer” explains Cathleen Jia of the intimate team at her self-proclaimed “humble” bridal boutique, “so everything we do is from the heart; hence we named the collection ‘Heart Song’.”

Cathleen Jia Heart Song 2015 wedding dress collection

Cathleen Jia Heart Song 2015 wedding dress collection

Cathleen Jia Heart Song 2015 wedding dress collection

The new ‘Heart Song’ collection includes a selection of custom gowns and hand-made in Melbourne, one-of-a-kind bridal headpieces featuring lace, pearls, jewels, crystals and chains, to complement the designs. ‘Heart Song’ continues the carefully balanced dance between the modern women who make up Cathleen Jia’s clientele and the label’s overarching “vintage bride” design philosophy.

Cathleen Jia Heart Song 2015 wedding dress collection

Cathleen Jia Heart Song 2015 wedding dress collection

“My type of bride is a modern Australian bride, someone who is quite relaxed. I think for us especially in Australia because we have so many beautiful scenic locations where you can get married, [a dress] needs to be able to match that mood.”

Cathleen Jia Heart Song 2015 wedding dress collection

Cathleen Jia Heart Song 2015 wedding dress collection

Cathleen Jia Heart Song 2015 wedding dress collection

We viewed the collection at Cathleen Jia’s Elsternwick bridal salon which was filled with Lulu Bird floral arrangements of silver gum and brassicas, a Sweet Bakes tiered wedding cake illustrated with one of the collection’s gowns by Knot Now Productions as well as eccentric restored furniture and twinkling lights installed by An Eccentric Bunch – a venture run by Cathleen’s own fiancé.

Cathleen Jia Heart Song 2015 wedding dress collection

Cathleen Jia Heart Song 2015 wedding dress collection

With bygone-era names such as ‘Primrose’, ‘Tillie’ and ‘Rita’, the gowns themselves hark back to another era with the inclusion of unusual pinstriped laces, antique gold fabrics, beaded cuffs and straps. But the designs certainly aren’t a strict homage to the golden days. “Our gowns are pushing boundaries a little bit – we are experimenting with intricate laces or even cutting the fabric a little differently. Something that’s less traditional just to give a slightly more modern take,” says Cathleen.

Cathleen Jia Heart Song 2015 wedding dress collection

Chatting over a ‘His + Hers Desserts’ table set with dainty chocolate madeleines and old-fashioned orange sponge, I wonder what is making Cathleen’s own heart sing at the moment? “I am thinking of my fiancé. He makes me laugh (at him). [He’s] my number one fan in everything I do and it’s just the small gestures that make me really happy in general.”

Cathleen Jia Heart Song 2015 wedding dress collection

Cathleen Jia Heart Song 2015 wedding dress collection

Cathleen Jia Heart Song 2015 wedding dress collection

As I am a bride-to-be myself, I often have people ask me if the novelty of it wears off? As cheesy as it sounds, love will never wears off. The closer it gets to our big day, the more I dream about when I will become his wife. Just the romance of it all and being with him, really makes my heart sing.”

Cathleen Jia Heart Song 2015 wedding dress collection

Cathleen Jia Heart Song 2015 wedding dress collection

Cathleen Jia Heart Song 2015 wedding dress collection

Cathleen Jia Heart Song 2015 wedding dress collection

Cathleen Jia Heart Song 2015 wedding dress collectionAll images via  Hello Darling

 

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Ms Chinoiserie Says: Such a beautiful new collection – so in love with the exquisite laces!

Behind The Door With…Miss Ladybird Cakes

by | Behind The Door With ..., Wisdom

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Amelia Waddell Of Make Your Day Wedding Styling
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This week I’m taking a stickybeak into the kitchens of Miss Ladybird Cakes in McKinnon, Victoria.

Gina Tubb opened Miss Ladybird Cakes almost two years ago with a plan to design and create custom cakes that were that little bit different.  As a qualified chef, Gina likes to use her skills and culinary knowledge to push the boundaries of traditional wedding cakes with a focus on quality ingredients, amazing flavours and lots of love going into every recipe.

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The first thing I noticed about entering the quirky shopfront is the aroma, warm cakes baking and caramel, yum! Gina jumped up from answering emails to show me the front cafe or her ‘play space’ as she calls it.

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The cafe is filled with vintage furniture as well as a display fridge of treats which are served with tea and coffee on weekends. Gina also uses this space for bridal consults and loves that it allows couples to enter her world while they enjoy a cake tasting.

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The custom shelving is Gina’s favourite part of the space and was built by her brother out of op shop finds and vintage pieces to create an impressive wall of display for her cakes. It is an ode to Gina’s passion for baking with cookbooks, ingredients and decorations popping out of nooks and crannies between the cakes. You can’t miss the beautiful mural on one wall designed by Gina’s sister and painted by her brother.

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There are three tier cakes trimmed with gold leaf and pretty cakes topped with pastel flowers but there’s also a deep sea octopus cake and one that appears to have blood dripping down the side. Gina explains that it was designed to be red paint as in “painting the roses red” from Alice in Wonderland and whilst people either love it or they hate it, it makes a great talking point.

Past the shopfront is Gina’s office and then the kitchens which Gina likes to call the real heart of her business at Miss LadyBird Cakes. I meet ‘Lola the oven’ which had to come in through the window when they first put her in. Chef Amelia is busy prepping wholesale cake orders and there are fridges filled with every possible treat from macarons to slices.

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Gina is here seven days per week and is often working long into the night after her staff have gone home. “It’s the less glamorous side to the business”  she says. “It’s not all pretty Instagram posts and putting fresh flowers on cakes, it’s me in my flour covered apron bent over the oven or driving deliveries all over town”. “It’s a lot of hard work but I wouldn’t have it any other way”.

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All images via Samara Clifford Photography

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Ms Chinoiserie Says: What a charming look into a wonderful world of cakes and sweet treats! Just imagine a wedding cake or a dessert buffet….

About Amelia Waddell of Make Your Day Wedding Styling: I’m a wedding stylist and proud store owner who loves to chat weddings with everyone and anyone! I love to talk shop with other business owners (particularly over some chocolate cake!) and am the first to try and have a sticky beak behind the scenes of any event. My free time is spent ‘investigating’ new cafes, stores and events. Make Your Day Wedding Styling is my creative outlet and I love nothing more than that ten minutes just before the guests enter the wedding reception, it feels like a special sort of magic!

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