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10 Things to Keep in Mind For Young Bridesmaids

by | Wedding Planning Wisdom, Wisdom



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Image by Kirralee Ashworth via Zoe and Jason’s Relaxed Macedon Ranges Wedding

Young Bridesmaids. They’re too young to wear the sexier dress styles of the older bridesmaids, and too old to be flowergirls. And that ‘but I’m not a little girl!’ complaint is coming from girls as young as 8 and into the 12-15 year-olds. Tweens and teens caught in that age range of not wanting to be lumped in with the 2 year-olds and not anywhere near appropriate for attending a bachelorette party are now given their own designation: Junior Bridesmaid. Many brides are sticking with this title, after deciding that ‘Senior Flowergirl’ is just too odd, and ‘Mini Bridesmaid’ is what some brides are calling their pet dogs included in the bridal party. Tweens and teens are very sensitive about what they’ll be called, so the traditional title will most likely work best.

Here are some additional wisdom notes to keep in mind when it comes to your Junior Bridesmaids:

1. Do NOT choose a strapless dress for a tween or young teen. They don’t have to match the bridesmaids’ strapless dresses, and can in fact have lovely, strapped dresses of their own style. I had to run to a 12 year-old junior bridesmaid’s rescue when her strapless top fell down as she was dancing, covering her up with my husband’s suit jacket (which I practically tore off of him.) Make it a rule, no matter how much the tween or teen wants to go strapless — there’s just too much movement during a wedding day, and developing girls may not have enough on top to hold up a strapless dress.

2. Give the Junior Bridesmaid a say in what she will wear. She can browse online dress galleries like any other bridesmaid, and she’ll appreciate being entrusted with the task of choosing her own dress style. Again, tweens don’t want anyone picking out what they will wear, and when the girl gets to pick out her own dress, she’ll glow with a sense of pride on the big day, rather than shrinking in awkward embarrassment if the dress you choose for her is not of her liking.

3. Plan for special wedding morning time with the Junior Bridesmaid. During your getting-ready hours, plan out time for you to paint her nails, or invite her to have the honored seat next to yours at the beauty salon.

4. ASK her how she feels about walking with a junior usher or a groomsman during the processional, recessional and when she’s introduced into the reception. Some girls look mortified when they discover at the last minute that they have to take the arm of a boy or man, and it’s a terribly uncomfortable moment. There’s no rule saying she has to be paired up with anyone at any time, so if it’s her personal comfort level to walk unescorted, that may be wisest.

5. For any group toast, such as the champagne toast you and your bridesmaids will share during the getting-ready hours before the wedding, make sure there is a non-alcoholic version of the drink for your Junior Bridesmaid. Girls are very sensitive to being left out of the group, even if the group is ‘older ladies’ (as they may call them.) So pre-plan a drink that shows your Junior Bridesmaid she’s important to you.

6. Expect a little bit of moodiness, if not brattiness. Tweens and teens may be going through body changes, hormonal changes, and pressures of growing up, and those factors can lead to some pouting, meltdowns and shyness. So don’t expect your Junior Bridesmaid to be smiling and joyful at all times (bridesmaids might not be, either, for their own reasons.) And don’t make the big mistake of pressuring a Junior Bridesmaid to snap out of her discomfort and smile. Kids’ moods change like the wind, so just be supportive and accept that the girl is on something of a wild ride right now. She’s doing the best she can.

7. Talk to the parents first. Before you promise the Junior Bridesmaid anything, like the dress she emails you a photo of, always get parental permission first. This is a top mistake that causes family drama.

8. Plan a 2-part bachelorette party. Start off with an at-home gathering or dinner for all ages (the Junior Bridesmaid attends this with her mother) and then the ‘older ladies’ can continue on to a bar or club that’s inappropriate for a tween or teen girl.

9. For the bridal shower, tell your bridesmaid-hosts to include the Junior Bridesmaid in several small tasks, such as picking an invitation style, making favors or choosing the games that will be played. The Junior Bridesmaid might not be overly-enthusiastic about joining in, or she might. Either way, it’s important to try to include her.

10. Give her a +1. If she doesn’t have siblings or cousins attending the wedding, it can be a very unpleasant event for her to be at. So if your guest list opens up a few spots as regrets come in, let your Junior Bridesmaid bring a friend to your wedding so that she has someone to talk and dance with, someone that will have her smiling during the celebration, not brooding and cranky from intense loneliness and boredom. That per-guest cost for the Junior Bridesmaid’s friend can be very, very worth it.

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Ms Gingham says: Such fabulous tips here Sharon! I love tip number 7 about gaining parental permission first. A small gesture like that can pave the way for a much more pleasant experience for all.

About Sharon: Sharon Naylor is the author of over 35 wedding books, including her newest: “The Bride’s Guide to Freebies” and “Bridesmaid on a Budget.” Her two books for the mothers of the bride and groom are bestsellers, and she has appeared on such top shows as Good Morning America, ABC News, Lifetime, Inside Edition and more – sharing tips and insider secrets to help you plan your dream wedding on a budget, personalized to your love story. Visit her site Sharon Naylor for more on her books, free worksheets and appearances. She lives in Morristown, NJ with her husband Joe and is at work on her next two wedding books.

Is A Wedding Video A Thing Of The Past?

by | Cinematography Wisdom, Wisdom


Igor of Biting Designs
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The bride’s dress swaying on the couple’s first dance, tears of joy gliding down the cheeks of loved ones, the sound of heels against the dance floor, and the beauty which exists within the recital of vows are memorable elements of a wedding day that you cannot find within a 2 dimensional photo.

I have been a cinematographer for some time now and for the life of me I cannot fathom why some couples underestimate the value of the moving picture. This is why I am writing this piece, to inform you all about my frustration, as a man who dedicates himself to the business of filming weddings.

Now days, there are so many avenues to create wedding films that one doesn’t need to be their own cinematographer. The title “Wedding Film” suggests much more then just a home made video. Just like Hollywood blockbusters, time and thought goes into the execution of a wedding film.

We all live in a media rich world where photos, videos and other visual and audio media are gaining ground. People no longer need to think of videos as lumps of plastic that sit in their covers, which are only enjoyable through tedious fast forwards or rewinds. Rather, video footage should be valued for the priceless moments they capture. Don’t get me wrong photography is also very important, but the two have a different purpose. They do not replace one another – they coexist.

So if you’re still tossing up the idea of a wedding video perhaps you will stop and think about the value of filming the day. Maybe this post will help you remember that videos will forever be the source of laughter, enabling the past to be relived with a simple push, swipe or click. Perhaps the video itself is not tangible, but the emotions and memories they can conjure up within minutes are. These are something we can all hold onto forever even when we’re old and grey and showing off our moment of glory to our grandchildren.

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Ms Gingham says: When all else is said and done a video is a long lasting memory. I am lucky enough to have some Super 8 films of my parents and myself when they were young and being able to watch these is such a precious thing to me.

About Biting Designs: Our work speaks for itself. We produce unique films using many different design techniques, while fulfilling our client’s requests by providing them with expert advice and cinematography – providing videos that are visually and sensually rich.

What To Write? – Wedding Invitation Wording

by | Stationery Wisdom, Wisdom


Emma of Paperless Wedding, Paperless Wedding
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 Image by Merge Photography via Kate and Anthony’s Quirky Garden Wedding

When I write a blog post I quite often get writers block. What to write and how to phrase it, being the most common issues. This is no different to what many of you are facing when writing your invitations. I have done lots of research into writing that perfect invite. There are so many ways of phrasing your wedding invitations. I will try and cover as many as I can. I think the most important thing to remember is that the phrasing should match the theme and feel of the day you are planning.

Tradition says that whoever is contributing towards the cost of the wedding should have their names included on the invitation. This would lend itself to a more formal style of invitation. If you are  planning a more relaxed affair you might just use your first names and leave out your parents names. The options are limitless!  I have put together a few guidelines to help give you some idea of how to begin.  Once you have something on paper it is often easier to edit and add to – that first line is always the hardest!

Informal example:

Jim and Emma

together with their parents

Geoff and Sue Taylor and Alan and Lynn Gosling

invite you to join them in celebrating their marriage

More formal example:

Mr & Mrs G Taylor and Mr & Mrs G Gosling

invite you to join them in celebrating the marriage of their children

James Taylor and Emma Gosling

If your parents are divorced you can separate the names, this example is if the brides parents are hosting the wedding:

Mr Alan Gosling and Ms Lynn Wight

invite you to join them in celebrating the marriage of their daughter

Emma Gosling to James Taylor

If one of your parents has passed away and you want to include their names:

Mr Alan Gosling the late Mrs Lynn Gosling

together with Jim Taylor and Emma Gosling

invite you to join them in a celebration of love

Here are a few other traditional wedding invitation wording options that you could use:

• request the presence of …

• to join them in celebrating their wedding..

• request the honour of the presence of …

• request the pleasure of the company of …

• invite you to share in their joy as …

• to join us in celebrating our marriage

• to join them in celebrating their union of marriage

• to join them in a celebration of love

These are usually all followed with details of the date, time and location of the big event.

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 Image by Merge Photography via Kate and Anthony’s Quirky Garden Wedding

The other things you might like to include on your invitation are:

  • RSVP date.
  • Time at which the party finishes.
  • Present information.
  • Dress etiquette – beach wedding (no heels!) or morning suits for a more formal affair.
  • A quote about love.

You can add additional information in with your invitation, like maps, accommodation details when you send them out. This way you can avoid cluttering the main invitation. Remember if you send by post to get it weighed before you send to ensure you have the right postage on it.  If you go digital, make sure you have all the details on your website and share the link with all your guests.

The most important thing above all is that there is no right and wrong. It’s your day and you can write what you like, but I hope I have helped inspire that first word.

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Ms Gingham says: Always a topic that can do with a post! Thanks Emma!

Paperless Wedding are a new and exciting company that can take the expense and paper out of wedding invitations. It will allow couples to track RSVP’s through their own personalised wedding website and they can set up gift lists too!

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