How To Deal With Bridezilla

by | Bride, Grooms


I’m excited to have wedding writer extraordinaire Kristen Seymour (who we know and love from wedding blog AisleDash) join Polka Dot Bride again to give tips on how to cope with a slightly over stressed bride!

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Certain events bring out certain aspects of our personality – that’s no surprise. What can be a surprise, however, is when two people get engaged and suddenly one of them becomes a complete wedding monster.

Often it’s the bride, but it can be the groom as well – I’ve even seen moms and maids-of-honor lose their minds. For simplicity’s sake, though, we’ll just use the term Bridezilla.

Why is this so common? Does wedding planning really bring out such an alien part of our psyche that we need a name for it? The thing is, a wedding is often the largest, most expensive party we’ll ever plan, and when you add into that the fact that once said party is over we’ll be married for, you know, the rest of our lives, the stress level builds up. However, over at Groom Groove, some suggestions are made for dealing with a Bridezilla.

  • Talk to Bridezilla. Find out before you begin what her expectations for this wedding are and figure out ways to keep these expectations realistic. And be sure to talk money. If you’re setting a budget, get involved and make sure you’re staying on track. Even though her head might spin around a few times, it’s likely that ordering light blue napkins instead of “Tiffany-blue, cream bordered and custom-monogrammed” napkins will not kill Bridezilla and it’ll save you loads of bucks.
  • Listen to Bridezilla. Even if you don’t want to. She might need to vent, or she might need to know you care. It’s even better if you offer to help — she might not take you up on it, but I guarantee she’ll always appreciate a sincere offer.
  • If necessary, give Bridezilla space. If she’s truly acting nuts, you might want to let her be for a while (after, of course, you offer to help). Let her know that you’ll keep distractions at bay so she can plan her little heart out, and then you can spend some quality time with her later.
  • Take Bridezilla away from the madness. It’s likely that she needs a break from being Bridezilla as much as you do, so make an effort to get her away from all the stress. Designate a night or a weekend at a spot that has NOTHING to do with the wedding, and make a point to talk about things other than wedding details.
  • Remember why you’re doing this. If she wasn’t a neurotic mess (or at least not a bitchy one) before the wedding, chances are very good that she’ll revert to her lovely self after the wedding. Hang in there, know that you have a well-deserved, relaxing honeymoon coming up, and always remember that you’re going to be married when all is said and done. And hopefully that still seems like a good idea.

Check our Kristen’s posts on AisleDash You can currently find Kristen writing about fashion at StyleList, fitness at That’s Fit, beauty advice at BeautyHacks, and your favorite celebrities doing good things at both ChatterBox and Tonic News Network. She writes about whatever else comes to mind at Jeez-o-petes.

  • Candice @ Jubilee Events says:
    September 16, 2008 at 8:58 pm

    … and if that doesn’t work, putting Bridezilla “in check” might due the trick. I think sometimes Brides don’t even know they’re behavior is borderline crazy. But great advice. 🙂

  • Wendy says:
    September 17, 2008 at 8:57 am

    I say- Let them be a bridezilla! There areso many stresses and so many things to decide on! but, the best advice to deal with a bridezilla is GET THEM A PLANNER!! Then she can deal with them! And, if she does her job, bridezilla will disappear in most cases.

  • Jeannine says:
    September 17, 2008 at 11:14 am

    And give her a glass of champagne!!!

  • Does the Dress Fit says:
    September 17, 2008 at 12:24 pm

    There are a lot of stresses that come with being a bride, but sometimes things go differently than planned and you have to just go with the flow. I had a million things go wrong prior to my wedding and when the big day arrived everything went perfectly. I was so surprised. All that crying was for nothing.

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    September 30, 2008 at 3:32 pm

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  • Angry Bridesmaid says:
    January 10, 2011 at 11:21 am

    I think some Brides need to wake up to themselves. Bridesmaids are the ones being pressured, taking on all the high pressure jobs all the while trying to keep the couple happy. We have to act as the councellor, event planner, mother, sister, sholder to cry on, voice of reason and personally, I feel under appreciated. I run around all day making appointments, making bookings, making deposits (with my own money), I do it because I love the bride and want her to have a great day. I feel its a slap in the face after all my hard work and input that the thanks i get is an email telling me my opinion is judgemental..

    Go jump!



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