You may feel a little left out in all that wedding planning. Let’s face it, choosing flowers may not be your thing anyway, but there is still plenty for you to do:
If ballroom dancing is not your thing, do consider taking lessons for your bridal waltz. Not only will you feel more confident in leading your bride, but your guests will love it.
Give your groomsmen plenty of notice for the fitting of the suit hire appointment. You need to do the fitting at least 2 months prior to your wedding day. When they are all dressed – look in the mirror together and ask yourself if this is the look you wanted? Is this fitting in with the overall theme?
Yes, you do need black socks, but you could consider coloured socks, may be matching the colour theme? Or just have some fun and mix and match!
Leading up to the wedding make sure you and your groomsmen do not get sunburned. Not a good look on the wedding photos – don’t you agree? Slip- Slop- Slap!
Do not leave it up to the last minute to write your speech. Give your best man a copy just in case! Practise it – trust me it will be worth it!
Become familiar with the time line on the day. It is going to be a long day and you do not like to be late for anything!
Maybe a bouquet of flowers and a card with a special note on the morning of your wedding to your bride would be a good thing?
Consider a card, a love poem to your “new wife” and place it on her pillow on your wedding night. Let your imagination run wild!
A perfect ending to your perfect day!
Check out Cathrin’s blog here for more of her wedding planning tips!
Practice! Practice will make you feel more relaxed- you’ll know what’s coming next and deliver your words more confidently. Use a mirror so you can check your facial expressions. gestures and posture.
Write it down- Write down the key points on index cards or paper. It’s very reassuring to know you have backup
Thanks- Thank your guests for coming to share in the day- especially those who have traveled long distances, thank the bridal party and your families. If it starts to feel like an acceptance speech, break it up with stories and a little humour.
Be as romantic and sentimental as you like about your wife! (and don’t forget to mention her- it does happen!)
Have fun with it! Include a joke, a funny story. This is your speech and do whatever you can to help yourself relax
Keep sober- Keep your alcoholic drinks to a minimum until after the speech. A drunk groom does not a good look make during a speech
Keep it snappy- don’t let the speech get too drawn out. You have a lot to say but you need to keep it snappy so guests don’t fall asleep! At the same time don’t rush so fast through the speech that guests will wonder where it went. Take your time with words.
Make sure the speech content is suitable for all ages. Keep the naughty jokes for the buck’s party!
Toast! It is traditional for the groom to toast the bridesmaids, but you might just want to raise a toast to your lovely new wife, or to family and friends!
Remember most of all, you are amongst people who care for you and will not judge you if you get the words wrong or if you spill your wine accidentally during the speech. So relax and enjoy the moment!
Wendy Hartigan is the event planner behind Wendy’s Affairs Of The Heart based in Pennsylvania. Wendy is such a sweet and caring blogger! She also writes the lovely blog Bridal Affairs and has joined Polka Dot Groom today to give some handy advice on what to do once you’ve popped the question.
OK! You popped the question, she said yes…NOW WHAT?! Well, it isn’t all up to the bride to plan the most important day of your lives. IT’S YOUR WEDDING TOO! Get involved, have fun and help keep the stress level to a minimum! Here are a few tips to help you on your journey:
Go to the vendor meetings as much as you can. I’m sure you don’t care if the linens are ivory or hot pink, or if the flowers are daisies or roses, but your bride will appreciate it if you give an opinion.
The tuxes are your job! Pick them out, make sure your groomsmen get measured and then make sure they pick them up before the morning of the wedding.
Speaking of the groomsmen- you need to buy them a gift.
You did a great job of picking out that diamond, but now you have to pick out a wedding band that she will love just as much- oh and a GIFT for your bride to be given to her while she is getting ready to meet you at the end of that aisle.
Guys!! PLEASE don’t have a bachelor party the night before the wedding. I can’t tell you how many brides I have had ask me to make sure the groom was sober at the wedding.
If you are going to make a toast, it should be at the rehearsal dinner. Your best man should be toasting at the wedding reception. So, get those thank you’s, those sentimental words to your bride and all those anecdotes ready to say the night of the rehearsal.
You are supposed to plan the honeymoon. OK- she wants to go to Fiji! It’s your job to make sure that she feels like she did, even if you go to the shore!
Suggest a planner- even if just for the day. Your bride will love you for giving her a reason to smile and relax on this very special day!!
Start a blog! You would be surprised how many grooms have a wedding blog detailing their own angst about this amazing journey. I love reading them myself. I have worked with many brides, but I love working with the groom too. You bring a totally different perspective to the wedding- one that is just as important as the bride’s.
I know that most couples are paying for the wedding themselves nowadays. But, here is the list of the traditional things a groom pays for:
Groomsmen gifts and gift for the bride
All the boutonnieres
The mother’s flowers
The rehearsal dinner is the groom’s family’s party
In the Asian and Middle Eastern traditions the groom’s family gives the wedding
Now that I have given you some food for thought, I will leave you with this– You are starting a new life with a special person. Enjoy the day, enjoy the party, and enjoy the vacation. Then, go home and love and take care of each other. Remember every day how you felt when you saw her at the end of that aisle. Best of Luck to all of you who read this!
Don’t forget to check out Bridal Affairs to see more of Wendy’s tips and tricks!