What Does Marriage & Partnership Mean To You?

by | What Marriage Means To Me, Wisdom

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Ms Tweed
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Image: De Lumiere Photography

Yep, we’re getting deep here on Polka Dot Wisdom. However, in these crazy times where relationships have been tested to their limits, we wanted to hear from some of the industry’s finest vendors to share their reflections on what is at the heart of a successiful partnership. 

We have the lovely Sarah of De Lumiere Photography, the wonderful Colleen of Showtime Events Centre and the delightful Simone of Roombas at Mt Aitken. Take the floor ladies. 

Sarah of De Lumiere Photography
I love asking this of parents and grandparents at weddings! So often they have been together 30, 40 and even 50 years!

Every single one of them say the same things: communication, friendship and a sense of humour.

I think as you get older your needs and expectations change, stability and friendship become more important.

Throughout the recent isolation, my husband and I have rediscovered our friendship. It kind of gets lost in the crazy that is shooting weddings every weekend as we often don’t see each other at all! We love hanging out with each other, it’s easy! We talk to each other about everything, nothing is off limits.

Images: De Lumiere Photography

Colleen at Showtime Events Centre
A marriage/long term relationship is like having a sleepover with your best friend, every single day, for the rest of both of your lives. A sleepover with a snoring, sleep talking, blanket hog! I think that is the best way to sum up a relationship, you take the good times with the bad.

Personally, I get to share my life with my best friend, both the highs and the lows.

Image: Cassandra Ladru

He’s my person I call when I get good news, need to share something funny, or need when I’m upset. With a marriage, you gain ‘your person’. This person will always be in your corner and your support. When you gain a ‘person’, you also become someone else’s person. You are someone else’s emergency contact in their phone, the person they go to when they have amazing news to share, and the person in a room full of people, that they look for first. When they have a bad day, you know to make their favourite cup of tea, to let them vent, or give advice.

Image: James Simmons Photography

Marriage is a 50/50 partnership. And my best piece of advice is to remember that. Nothing should ever be expected, instead it should be something you thank them for, as they do to you. Ultimately you are a team that will take care of one another. Both parties need to be able to give.

There’s also going to be days when you dislike ‘your person’. That’s right, you WON’T LIKE THEM. But that doesn’t mean you don’t stop loving them!

Marriage is a long term, ongoing relationship that is always growing. You will have ups, and you will have downs. But you will always have ‘your person’ and they will always have you as theirs.

Image: The Wedding & Portrait Studio

Simone from Roombas At Mt Aitken
It was my husband’s and my ninth wedding anniversary in April. We weren’t able to celebrate due to isolation, but we didn’t mind at all…

Since having four kids under seven years old, I’m not sure we have ever been able to properly celebrate!

But that’s okay, as we find that we celebrate daily by just being together and looking after each other and our little family. Marriage isn’t about images, pretty things, social media and materialism, it’s about being there when it counts!

roOM

Image: CeeTee Photography

COMMENTS
  • Mindy Haffke says:
    June 30, 2020 at 12:30 pm

    Thank you Ms. Tweed for this!
    I absolutely agree with the adjective of the early stages of a relationship used by Sarah- communication, friendship and a sense of humour, which then puts the spotlight onto stability and friendship as the relationship continues to develop over time. I have been married for almost 4 years and I’ve known my partner since I was in middle school. It’s truly important to base your relationship on friendship. Love is one thing, but the combination of love and having someone to call your best friend and your partner will last a lifetime.
    -Mindy (Marriage Officiant)

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